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Who’s to say?

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Who’s to say that the death of one’s only son through a traffic altercation is God’s will?

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Could be your local parish priest. Could be some random citizen. Could be anyone, I suppose.

But one thing I’m sure of, it’s not the mother of the prime suspect — who allegedly took the vibrant life of a young man.

If it is crime most foul to take another person’s life, how then do you describe such insensitive statements from the most awkward of sources?

Maybe some friends can say that to the grieving family, maybe even the members of the family themselves can say that  — if only to comfort each other in shocking grief.

But from the “alleged” offender’s mother? Not quite right.

It is human to share in the grief of even a stranger’s loss in the same way it is human to go overboard in protecting one’s child. It is human to feel sympathy at the misfortune of others as it is human to blame the offended for the offender’s fate.

But never ever will it be human to say that a son’s death is God’s will when one’s son might have taken it.

If Marlene Aguilar-Pollard is sure as hell that her son is innocent of the crime accused of him, without a witness to that  incident but God — then  is Jason Aguilar Ivler guilty as charged or wrongfully accused? Who’s to say?

If we think it human to give her and her son the benefit of the doubt, would it be too much to give Renato Ebarle Jr.’s family the right to grieve the way they see fit?

Is it God’s will that Ebarle Jr. die that fateful day in the exact way he did through the barrel of some psychologically-disturbed guy’s gun?

Who’s to say? Could be anyone, I suppose. But certainly not Marlene.

Marlene dismisses all assumptions that she is mentally disturbed and showcases us books she’s written to attest to her brilliance. Well, I say: Who’s to say? That’s irrelevant now to what’s apparent to us. While she may not be accused of mental deprivation, she might just lack a “sense of morals”. But why should you believe me? Who’s to say, right?

Let me know what you think… :)

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● About Me
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I’m RJ Marmol — writer, musician, and independent creator based in Manila.

I write songs, essays, and books about the messy overlap between money, overwhelm, creativity, identity, and rebuilding. Much of my work circles around what happens when life stops feeling manageable — and how we try to think clearly, make decisions, and keep moving anyway.

I’m also the author of Rebuilding Under Debt: Thinking Clearly When Everything Is a Blur, a nonfiction book published under Steady Hand Press. The paperback edition is listed under my full publishing name, Cecilia Regina Aquino Blanquera.

On the music side, I release work as HeyRJ. On the writing side, this site is where I gather my books, essays, notes, and whatever I’m building next.

Music

HeyRJ is my sonic soul project. I create raw, minimalist-style and deeply personal music interpretations that feel like a late-night conversation with your truest self.

By blending lo-fi acoustic textures with poetic honesty, my work explores love, loss, grief, healing, and the quiet in-betweens of life. Each song is a letter — a journal entry — a gentle companion for when the world feels too loud or too quiet.

While my catalogue began with intimate cover renditions, my work is increasingly being shaped by original writing, drawing from years of poems, lived questions, and emotional survival.

“Stuck Home Syndrome” released on March 20, 2026 is my first original 20-track album written during a period when time felt compressed and days began to blur into each other. The songs came from sitting with thoughts that had nowhere else to go — unfiltered, repetitive, and sometimes uncomfortable. It’s a concept album that isn’t built around singles or polish. It’s closer to a continuous inner monologue, recorded with minimal production and very little ornamentation and meant to be listened to as one cohesive body of work. The goal wasn’t to resolve anything, only to document how it felt while it was happening.

On May 29, 2026 I released new original singles – “Rapturous”, “Uh Huh”, “Look At You”, “All That” and “Blew Print”. I continue to release both original and cover songs and intend to so for as long as I can so check back every once in a while — you might. just find something you’ll like.

For business inquiries relating to music, email me at: heyrjmusic[at]gmail[dot]com or my personal email at: rjmarmol[at]gmail[dot]com.

Books

Rebuilding Under Debt: Thinking Clearly When Everything Is a Blur

A nonfiction book about what debt does to the mind — and how to begin functioning again when financial stress has made everything feel blurred, urgent, and overwhelming.

Rather than treating debt only as a financial math problem, the book explores the emotional and cognitive realities of financial distress: shame, decision fatigue, avoidance, panic, relationship strain, and the difficulty of making sound decisions while mentally depleted.

Published under Steady Hand Press. It’s available worldwide in ebook and paperback formats on Amazon. Bookstores and libraries can also be order it wholesale via Ingram.

Contact

For book-related inquiries, media requests, bookstore questions, or discussion-group invitations, you can reach me through the contact page on this site or send me an email to rjmarmol[at]gmail[dot]com or hello[at]steadyhandpress.com

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