I'm Free To Decide, and Guess What? So Are You.


The uber-controversial and much-debated Reproductive Health Bill of 2008 is now being strongly opposed by of course, no less than the entire Catholic church and other “concerned” and self-righteous citizens who will go to great lengths just to make sure the bill is not enacted into a law. And make no mistake about it, the power of the Church to influence should neither be underestimated nor taken lightly. They are a force to be reckoned with. It is highly possible that they (Church and other so-called “pro-life” groups) will win this battle. I hope not.

However, if you expect me to discuss (in this particular post) why I choose to be a proponent of this bill, I am sorry to disappoint you. There is no need for explanation or thorough analysis here. The issue, although not simple, is rather easy to understand and consequently, easy to decide on which side to take. I mean, come on people, when are we ever gonna grow up as a country and accept the fact that we can no longer feed our people, provide jobs that match education and experience, eradicate poverty and zero-out crime rate which is a direct effect of these issues? Wake up people. Face the facts. Do what needs to be done. The proposed Philippine Reproductive Health Bill is not even immoral per se. It does not even violate the Philippine constitution (as compared to the BJE MOA).

I’ve said this before and I will say it again. Let’s support The Philippine Reproductive Health Bill. If you are indeed PRO-Life, I am sure you have an idea of what “life” actually is. Mere existence doesn’t qualify as “life”. Life is actually “living” normally — eating, working, playing — not simply “existing” which is even made more degrading by “begging” and “robbing” as a result of poverty.

To all those who oppose this bill as if it is a bill drafted from hell by the devil himself, I say why don’t you go there and ask for yourself. I am betting my bottom peso, that you who claim to be righteous and holy don’t even know what it’s like to go hungry or walk to school wearing worn-out slippers or settle for a vocational course you would never take even in your dreams just because you are too poor to afford it.

This generation and the succeeding ones should have the benefit of a “choice” — a choice to take control of their lives and future and realize their dreams… and a choice to decide to bear children at a time they want. Morality is not the state’s concern. And while it is the Church’s job to keep morality in check, it is not something that can be enforced. That choice is for each individual to make.

So, in closing, I present you “Free To Decide” by The Cranberries. This song’s title and lyrics aptly describe my stand on the Philippine Reproductive Health Bill. I dedicate this to those who “must have nothing more with their time to do” and have the luxury of taking their protests to the streets. Aren’t these people supposed to be working for food? Oh, yeah, maybe they don’t need to work. My point exactly.

“Free To Decide” by The Cranberries

It’s not worth anything,
More than this at all.
I’ll live as I choose,
Or I will not live at all.

So return to where you come from,
Return to where you dwell,
Because harassment’s not my forte,
But you do it very well.

I’m free to decide, I’m free to decide,
And I’m not so suicidal after all.
I’m free to decide, I’m free to decide,
And I’m not so suicidal after all,
At all, at all, at all.

You must have nothing,
More with your time to do.
There’s a war in Russia,
And Sarajevo too.

So to hell with what you’re thinking,
And to hell with your narrow mind,
You’re so distracted from the real thing,
You should leave your life behind, behind.

‘Cause I’m free to decide, I’m free to decide,
And I’m not so suicidal after all,
I’m free to decide, I’m free to decide,
And I’m not so suicidal after all,
At all, at all, at all.

I’m free to decide, I’m free to decide,
And I’m not so suicidal after all,
At all, at all, at all.

7 responses to “I'm Free To Decide, and Guess What? So Are You.”

  1. amen buddy, amen! we need this bill, some of our dear countrymen needs to learn more about family planning and hello, it is not abortion!

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  2. hello venice! :) welcome and thanks for your wonderful comment..i’ve seen your blog and found it an entertaining and informative read. keep it up! :) about the bill, yes, let us not tire in spreading info where it’s needed. most of those who oppose it are actually oblivious of the fact that this bill is more pro-life than anti-life..

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  3. firstly, this should not have reached the level of making it into a bill — this must have been one’s personal choice to lead one’s life onwards. i will not be surprised if in the future times, a bill will be proposed concerning how many times a Filipino should exhale and inhale.

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  4. glad to have you back here, dimaks! :) lol with the bill on inhale/exhale.. :) your comments are always welcome here..keep ’em coming! cheers!

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  5. You are so right, we need this bill. I have a seen a lot of kids on the streets, with no shelter and no food to eat. Too much population, less jobs.

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  6. hello mitch! very true. it’s a matter of responsibility. people must realize that if they can’t afford to raise a child, they must not even think about engaging in irresponsible sexual activity. it’s that simple. but since people tend to do it anyway, then a more rigid law has to be passed. that’s how the society works, that’s what governments are for.

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  7. […] future anyway. This is our children’s future at stake here. And because we are “Free To Decide.” It’s about time we say Yes to: Information and access to natural and modern family […]

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I’m RJ Marmol — writer, musician, and independent creator based in Manila.

I write songs, essays, and books about the messy overlap between money, overwhelm, creativity, identity, and rebuilding. Much of my work circles around what happens when life stops feeling manageable — and how we try to think clearly, make decisions, and keep moving anyway.

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While my catalogue began with intimate cover renditions, my work is increasingly being shaped by original writing, drawing from years of poems, lived questions, and emotional survival.

“Stuck Home Syndrome” released on March 20, 2026 is my first original 20-track album written during a period when time felt compressed and days began to blur into each other. The songs came from sitting with thoughts that had nowhere else to go — unfiltered, repetitive, and sometimes uncomfortable. It’s a concept album that isn’t built around singles or polish. It’s closer to a continuous inner monologue, recorded with minimal production and very little ornamentation and meant to be listened to as one cohesive body of work. The goal wasn’t to resolve anything, only to document how it felt while it was happening.

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